We didn’t have play dates when we were kids. Or at least we didn’t call them that. Instead we were haphazardly herded outside—destined to spend our time roving neighborhoods and annoying neighbors.
But, things are a little different now. And play dates are an integral part of being a child (and a parent) in 2016. Spending time with peers helps children develop competent social behavior in a supervised space. Plus, when hosting is rotated, play dates give parents a much-needed break.
Still, for many parents, this type of social interaction is a whole new domain—and it’s a lot more focused on maintaining strong relationships with other parents than you might think. So what are the rules of engagement? What is considered proper play date etiquette?
Play Date Etiquette 101
To have a successful play date, make sure you communicate well with the other parent(s) and plan ahead. These tips will help you plan a fun and safe get-together:
Make Sure the Kids Aren’t Tired
Schedule a time that doesn’t interfere with either child’s nap time. Better interaction and learning will take place when children are rested. Have a place available where a parent and child can sit alone for a few minutes if the child gets tired. When you’re the visitor, bring a favorite blanket or plush toy to help calm your little one if necessary.
Get Tactical Before the Playdate
No one likes to be late or miss out on all the fun, so make sure you know directions, the expected duration, anticipated activities, and who will be attending. If you’re the host, provide directions and the exact address (as it appears on Google Maps) so guests can use GPS.
Discuss children’s preferences and motor skills so ample equipment and appropriate toys can be available. Be aware of any dietary restrictions, allergies, or other limitations. Make sure to exchange phone numbers in case of last-minute changes.
Plan a Healthy Snack
If the play date will last two hours or more, little bellies will start grumbling! A healthy treat, beverage, or water will increase energy while the break from play offers a few minutes of rest.
Rotate Hosting
Sharing and boundaries are great skills picked up from a simple change of venue. Plus, rotating hosting gives you (and the other parents in your play date circle) a chance for some well-needed respite.
Try Someplace New
Socialization outside the home can help prepare children for successful kindergarten. Visits to indoor playgrounds, parks, zoos and children’s museums are good educational fun and many programs have group rates and activities just for children. Bonus points if you can find a play date venue that offers perks for adults, like a cafe or snack bar.
